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WWL: The Spirited Child
Where We Live - with John Dankosky
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Is your child "difficult"... or "spirited"?


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Author, speaker and parent educator Mary Sheedy Kurcinka has a word for children the rest of us might call “hard to handle” – it’s “spirited”. And, Kurcinka argues that the word that distinguishes these “spirited” children from other children is more. More intense, persistent, sensitive, perceptive, and uncomfortable with change than other children. She says these children are the Super Ball in a room full of rubber balls. Other kids bounce three feet off the ground, while the bounce of the spirited child hits the ceiling.

Kurcinka is the author of the bestseller “Raising Your Spirited Child”.

Today, Where We Live, we'll talk to Kurcinka about what parents need to know about raising and disciplining spirited children. From tantrums to mealtime to bedtime.

*This episode originally aired on March 18, 2009.


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Twitter: clsteele@wherewelive

great show. I'm a teacher & this is the sort of "behavior management" workshops we need in the schools for parents & staff. 

Parenting Confence - this sunday!

You should come to the Parenting Conference this Sunday, March 22nd.  And tell your colleagues, parents and friends to come too.  Its not too late to sign up.  

Ms. Kurcinka is our keynote speaker and then we are offering a choice of 5 breakout sessions lead by local experts (birth to 2, 3-4year olds, 5-7 year olds and 2 special needs workshops:  birth to 3 and 4 to 7).  It is $35 per person or $15 for teachers.  Please visit the website at www.mandelljcc.org for more information and to sign up!

- Meryl Braunstein

Chair of the JCC's "A Parenting Conference."

Twitter: tipadaknife@wherewelive

 Is "Spirited Child" the new, PC, way to say "problem child"?

Email from Tom

How can we educate our school in this manner?
What can we expect from them?
We are at school meetings trying to get some coping skills for our son. He is top in the class in a lot of areas, but he cannot function by himself.
He needs to be told to take his jacket off every day.
He cannot listen to instructions, but if the paper is put in front of him, he can complete it.
We have had PPTs and it he was given an easy diagnosis of ADD.
He was put on medicine in kindergarten and became a zombie.
So now he's in third grade, and the school does not seem to want to test him or anything now that he has his ADD diagnosis.
They say it is emotional and therefore not really their problem.


I felt for the Mother who broke down on this show

And I thought the guest handled it so well, it does take a village. We all need help, Moms/Dads/families to be parents. My son is 3.5 and definitely spirited, and completely does not respond to anger. He is smart, funny, energetic, NON-STOP and really, really needs routine. The more we stick to a routine, the better. And the more frustrated I get at "his ways", the more he responds negatively. My mother-in-law started sending us articles on Autism - which made us feel even worse, just the labeling is so maddening. There is much to learn, I am going to get that book tonight! I know food & sleep are a huge part of this equation. He thrives at preschool now (Joni's) with the structure, activity, etc. I do worry about later on.

Does anyone belong to a Parent's Group in Farmington?

Conscious Parents group in CT

I enjoyed this program very much. I wanted to get here and share a resource with anyone who might drop in on this conversation. I am part of a CT wide community called Families for Conscious Living CT.


Their website is www.fclct.org and they offer online and in person discussions and events. They are a non-profit by parents and for parents, offering support and information to families. Too bad I didn't see the JCC event in time, our community would have enjoyed going to that event! thanks.